Creating a Miscarriage Care Package: What to Include (and Why It Helps)

Losing a pregnancy is an experience that no one should have to endure alone. For those who have suffered a miscarriage, the emotional and physical toll can be overwhelming.

As a miscarriage doula, part of my role is to offer comfort and support during this difficult time. One way to provide solace and show care is by assembling a thoughtful care package for someone going through pregnancy loss.

In this post, I’ll share what you might include in a miscarriage care package — practical, nourishing, and comforting items that can help someone feel held during an incredibly tender time.

1. A personalised note or letter

Start with a heartfelt note or letter expressing your love and support. Let the person know that you are there for them, and that you understand this may feel painful, confusing, and isolating.

Personalise the message so they know you’re truly thinking of them.

I still have some of the notes I received after my miscarriage, and I re-read them sometimes. They really do feel like a warm hug.

2. Herbal teas and comfort food

Miscarriage can take a toll on both physical and emotional wellbeing. Including soothing herbal teas and comforting, easy-to-prepare foods can be such a thoughtful gesture — similar to preparing a package for someone who is postpartum.

You could include:

• Chamomile tea (calming)

• Peppermint tea (soothing)

• Ginger tea (gentle support for nausea and digestion)

I personally loved nettle tea, which is rich in iron and can be supportive after blood loss — especially with honey.

Comfort foods can also help someone feel cared for when they don’t have the capacity to cook. A homemade soup or hearty stew can offer quiet nourishment during a challenging time.

3. A journal or notebook

Grieving and healing often involves reflection and self-expression. Providing a journal or notebook can create a gentle space for someone to write down thoughts, feelings, or memories related to their pregnancy and loss.

Even if they don’t write straight away, having it there can feel supportive.

4. A candle or essential oils

Aromatherapy can be a powerful tool for relaxation and emotional regulation. A candle or essential oils can also become a way to honour the pregnancy and the loss in a simple, meaningful way.

Some supportive scents include:

• Lavender

• Rose

• Frankincense (for grounding)

5. A soft, cosy blanket or shawl

A soft blanket or shawl can offer physical comfort and emotional warmth — like giving someone a comforting hug when they need it most.

6. Self-care items

Simple self-care items can help someone feel soothed and supported when everything feels overwhelming.

You might include:

• Bath salts

• A bath bomb

• A gentle body cream or hand cream

• Lip balm

These small comforts can help someone nurture themselves with softness and care.

7. Books on grief and healing

A thoughtful book on miscarriage, grief, or healing can offer reassurance and guidance in a time where many people feel lost or alone.

I share lots of gentle book recommendations on my Resources page. (Insert link)

8. A small keepsake

A keepsake can provide a tangible reminder of the love that remains, and it can be deeply comforting over time.

This could be:

• A memorial stone

• A small piece of jewellery

• A framed quote

• A small token that feels meaningful to them

9. Support resources (groups, counselling, and gentle listening)

Connect them with resources they may need for additional support, such as:

• Local pregnancy loss support groups

• A therapist or counsellor experienced in grief or pregnancy loss

I also found podcasts incredibly helpful. Simply hearing other people’s stories — and realising I wasn’t alone — was profound.

I’ve shared recommendations on my Resources page here. (Insert link)

10. Physical comfort essentials

Miscarriage is emotional, but it’s also physical — and this part often gets overlooked.

A practical care package can include:

• Sanitary pads

• Adult nappies

• Period pants

• Large black underwear

• A hot water bottle for cramps

• Over-the-counter pain relief (if appropriate)

• Local honey for warm teas

These items may feel unglamorous, but they can bring real comfort and ease.

11. Flowers or a small plant

A bouquet of fresh flowers, dried flowers, or a potted plant can bring a gentle touch of beauty during a time of sorrow. For some, it can symbolise life continuing — slowly, softly, in their own time.

A final note

Creating a miscarriage care package requires thought and sensitivity. Tailor it to the person’s preferences and needs, and make sure it reflects genuine care.

It’s a simple, tangible way to say: you are not alone.

Your support as a friend, partner, or loved one extends beyond words, and a care package can be a beautiful gesture that makes a real difference in someone’s grieving process.

A gentle invitation

If you or someone you love is going through miscarriage or pregnancy loss and needs emotional support, you don’t have to carry it alone.

I offer compassionate miscarriage support in Hastings, East Sussex, and online worldwide. If it feels right, you’re warmly invited to book a confidential call — a calm space to be met with care, without judgement or pressure.